Aspirers vs. Emergers

If any readers of my blog are not yet aware of Kristen Lamb's blog and book, We Are Not Alone: The Writer's Guide To Social Media, here is a strong recommendation to make yourself aware.

Aspiring Writer: one who sits alone for hours, typing her bleeding heart through her keyboard onto a blank page while dreaming of her novel being displayed on the front table of her local Barnes and Noble, or better yet, the one on 5th Avenue.

Emerging Writer: one who sits alone for hours typing at her computer but has learned not to use words like "bleeding heart"; one who follows sage advice, creates a platform, interacts with professionals and constantly works to become a better writer.

At any stage of the writing game—and according to Paul Auster it just gets worse as one becomes more successful—it seems vital, despite JD Salinger's approach, to maintain active and healthy communication with other people. Writers, readers, agents, publishers, friends, they all play a part in sanity. (That's sanity, not insanity.) Kristen Lamb is a no-nonsense guide to getting one's name out there and preventing the feeling of being a lone writer. (That is, a writer who's alone, not the only writer in the world.)

One of my core values is persistence. Kristen's blog post today is about luck vs. persistence. This ought to separate the "aspirers" from the "emergers."

Getting My Groove Back

Today I opened the files for my fourth novel for the first time in two months. It's a little like reconnecting with old friends on Facebook. In other words, who the heck are these people and what the heck is going on in their lives?

For the past two months, I was finalizing (researching, rewriting and polishing) my third novel, Honorable Lies, which is now in Queryland with 13 agents. Well, I sent letters to 13 agents (because that number has always been lucky for me), but two have already said they are so proud of me, and pleased that I would give them the chance, but that they are unfortunately unable to represent my work. Hmmm. That's okay, I only need one, and he/she is still out there.

You know the sage advice, "Write every day"? That's so you don't forget your own children characters. I had written 20,000 words of A Reasonable Price before I went back to finish up my last novel, and it's going to take a while for me to remember exactly what these peoples' demons and goals are. Fortunately, I have this novel outlined, start to finish, and I have copious notes to use as reference. This is the first time I've been so thorough on the outline, and I'm very glad to have all these notes to suck me right back into the tempest I have brewing in my hard drive. If you're one who's not able to write every day, this might be exactly the tack to take so you can re-immerse yourself at a moment's notice.

Or maybe I'll switch things up a bit now that I'm older and wiser. Either way, it's good to be back.

Van Gogh and Me

I recently blogged about Steve Jobs' influence on my life. Now how about Vincent Van Gogh?

J.D. Salinger is famous for publishing four books, then disappearing for forty-some years. Can I do that? Or do I have to become famous first? Van Gogh sold only one painting in his lifetime, and that was to his brother. Hell, I could sell a hundred books to family members if that counts.

There's a famous adage that everyone wants to have written a book, but few want to actually write it. Well I'm the opposite. I mean, sure I'd like to sell a novel, but I LOVE the writing part. Creating people and problems and scenes so vivid that you feel like you're there with the characters—that's my favorite part. In four years I've completed three novels, and my next is well underway. At this rate, I will fill my bookshelf in a couple more years. Who wants to slow down for the publishing process?

Full disclosure: Today I emailed several query letters to carefully chosen agents. I know the percentage of being chosen from a "slush pile" is about one in a million, but hey, I have 4 sons. What are the odds of that? Four of a kind is a pretty good hand. In any case, my novel Honorable Lies is complete, polished, and ready to go.

Now on to A Reasonable Price.

Embracing Change

Great news to report! I've been published on More.com. This is an essay I wrote about reinvention. Who better than me to write about this? Check out my story here: http://www.more.com/opportunity-mother-reinvention Enjoy!

Steve Jobs and Me

I never met Steve Jobs; I wish I had. Like millions of others, his life's work has greatly influenced mine. I'd like to say that I would write books even if I had only pencil and paper, or only a typewriter. I might, but I'm not sure. But why Steve Jobs, in particular?

I didn't become an Apple fanatic until 2007. Like so many others, my business ran on Windows products so I thought the conversion would be overwhelming. It wasn't until I closed my art gallery and bought a laptop with the express idea of writing a novel (a fresh start) that I felt no barrier to switching products. I have been writing for four years now, yet I'm still not published. A good friend with a good heart recently asked me why I'm not published when so many other people are. I made a few self-effacing jokes and thought I'd let that comment die... and yet I can't.

Malcolm Gladwell is famous for extolling the notion that it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert in any given field. Because I was not an English major in college (even though reading, writing and academia have been a major influence on my entire life), I believed that I needed to put in five years of writing before I could hope to be good enough to be published. Time will tell, true, and the death of Steve Jobs reinforces that fact. No one begins with perfection.

Looking back, the first Macintosh computer now looks like a dinosaur, a laughable relic. The iMac on which I now type is sleek, elegant and sophisticated—a masterpiece. Yet if Steve Jobs had never released the original Macintosh, this computer would not exist. Nor would the current iPhone, Nano or iPad.

Why am I not yet published? Because I am not yet as good as Ann Patchett or Jonathan Franzen. I am hypercritical of my work and anxious for it to be better. I'm also kind of shy. Stretching out of my comfort zone to pitch a novel that isn't as good as (insert any literary masterpiece here) stops me from sending out the quantity of query letters necessary to find the right agent to rep me. Instead, I finish a novel (I've completed three), send out a few queries, then immediately start on my next story knowing it will be better, it will be good. My standard of good enough is as high as Steve Jobs' must have been, but it apparently didn't hold him back and I cannot let it hold me back.

In 2005, Jobs gave a now-famous commencement address to the graduates of Stanford University. In that speech he said, "The only way to do great work is to love what you do." I love writing. I am confident that I will be published, and thanks to Steve Jobs, I will no longer be shy about what I have created. My first published work will probably not be the great American novel; that's okay. The important factor is where it will lead me.

With enough love, persistence and luck, maybe one day I will write a novel that is as delicious as an Apple.

Liebster BlogLove Continues

Wow, how nice is this? Big thanks to Katianne Williams for sending me the Liebster BlogLove Award. 

Katianne's Blog is very entertaining and right-on. You can also find her on Twitter, of course @Katiannewill. She's represented by Jenny Bent so we know she's talented!

So what's the Liebster Blog? Part of what I call the Twitter Circle of Love.

Here's an explanation of this award:

Here are the rules:

1. Thank the giver and link back to the blogger who gave it to you.
2. Reveal your own top 5 picks (the blogs you love with less than 200 followers) and let the bloggers know by leaving a comment on their blog or twitter.
3. Copy and paste the award on your blog.
4. Have faith that your followers will spread the love to other bloggers.
5. And most of all - have bloggity-blog fun!

Check out some of my favorite (smaller) Blogs:

1. Alison Lockwood: http://alisonrlockwood.blogspot.com/ 

2. Hallie Sawyer: http://www.halliesawyer.com/blog/

3. Kelcey McKinley:  http://www.kelceyjomckinley.blogspot.com/

4. Ann Napoltano: http://annnapolitano.com/

5. Tess Hardwick: http://tesshardwick.com/

Enjoy!